Meeting someone new can feel, well, new…
As we enter the 2019 holiday season, I cannot help but be aware of new beginnings around the corner. Of course, my growing belly is a constant reminder of the change that is coming into my life personally and for my family. But also, conversations in my office consistently remind me of the flux this change will bring to my professional life and to my dear clients.
I am ever mindful that change is challenge. However, growth isn’t optional. I have chosen it and fortunately, or not, forced it upon others too ;) AFGO! Yet, the reality of moving into a change can bring up many feelings.
Several folks I chat with are hesitant about starting with a new therapist. Of course, this makes complete sense. I have had the privilege of trust, the benefit of time and the luxury of experience with each person. Yet, once, I was the new person too…
Having a positive therapeutic (and arguable any) relationship, depends a lot on finding a good fit. You need to like the vibe and feel the connection. So, sometimes, there is a bit of trial and error involved. Often, it also takes some patience as you get to know someone different. However, there are ways that I would be happy to help assist. I can provide referrals, make connections, and with your written consent, share information. You can help yourself too! You can listen to your gut, ask questions and be clear about the direction you’d like to go and what you’re hoping for.
A few weeks ago, a generous client gifted Nibby a new toy. I wish I could have captured her distrust. Her entire body showed how uncertain she was about this new thing in the office. She hid under my legs, she backed away and she needed me to reassure her repeatedly to even come close to the toy. Yet, over time, she became more accustomed to this strange new friend. I dare say, she even likes it now. I can’t predict the future, but I hazard a guess, that in due time she will grow to love this toy.
Beginnings are tough, but they can also bring opportunity. A new therapist may have a style, insight, or way of being that resonates so completely. Plus, I still promise, I will return to my work in time. Waiting around for that change, isn’t what I would suggest. Instead, perhaps you can take a leap and trust the magic of new beginnings.
I plan to be out of the office December 20, 2019 - January 5, 2020 for a holiday break. I would be honoured to connect with you and support your journey when back in the office January 6, until I begin my maternity leave on January 31, 2020.
Wishing you a peaceful holiday season and all the best as you begin 2020.
Deepika
